Things I'm Letting Go of In My Thirties

Let me start by saying that sometimes I can't believe I'm in my thirties. Mostly though I love it and have zero problems because of how much I've learned about myself and my world since entering this action-packed decade... and also because of how eager I am to project onto my peeps what I hope is the best version of myself. In order to do that, I first have to let some things go mamas. We have to look inward to properly project outward. Without further ado...

Things I'm Letting Go of In My Thirties

Because we all know sometimes to grow, you just gotta let things go!

1. Not feeling good enough/being too hard on myself - To be perfectly honest, I'm going to struggle for life on this one. It's because I'm a perfectionist and that means I can be very hard on myself. I want to be THE BEST ME that I can be, at all times, in all aspects of my life, and I often worry if I'm good enough for everything and everyone around me. This won't change but what HAS changed is what "being the best me" means now. At 32, I think I'm finally figuring out that this looks like: being honest, kind, generous, compassionate, hardworking, and flexible. All of these things are DEFINITELY "good enough" and I'm letting go of bullying myself and going to try real hard to give myself a dang break.

2. Pretending like I don't care what others think. You're thinking, "Huh?" Yeah. You read it right. I'm letting go of the charade, y'all. I actually do care what others think... but not everyone. It is time to be more self-aware here. My actions have consequences. What I say, matters. And I want all of these actions and words to be well-received. I do not want to rock boats. I do not want to hurt others. I want that delightful peaceful harmony around me as much as possible and, within reason, this means that I care quite a bit what people think and how I make them feel. I know that I cannot please everyone and I'm not necessarily trying to do that completely. I think, though, that a lot more of us should care what others see when they look at us and what they think when we stand up to speak. I want you to feel good about me and I want to feel good about you. If we just flat out don't see eye to eye, that's fine, too. We will float away from each other and that's okay. 

3. The feeling that I need to control others and their intentions. This one is another head scratcher for some of you but to me it goes hand-in-hand with my second item above. While I care what others think, I want it to be less about controlling that and more about acceptance. I'm generally a pretty open minded person and welcome just about anyone and anything into my bubble (at least at first). But now...now that I'm in my 30s...I want to let go of feeling the need to control those in my bubble and instead just let them BE THERE. They're in my bubble, but they're living their own lives just like I'm living mine. Float on, bubble mates, float on. 

... so many references to floating so far...

4.  FOMO. Oh lawd she went and used a very 20-something phrase in her 30-something post. FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) is something I've strrrruuuuggled with in my life. So, now I must find the balance between feeling the need to control everything and everyone, caring too much, and also not being afraid to miss out on things. Because, let's face it y'all. We can't be included in everything and when we aren't, it's okay! It's not personal! Again, it goes back to realizing and understanding that what others are doing and what they think are two things that are none. of. my. business. and I just need to be comfortable in "doing me" while they... do them. I'm trying to let the FOMO GO HO. 

5. Thongs. Bam. I so went there. I had to end this post with a chuckle. But I'm for real though. They ain't comfy and I'm so over them.

Thanks for reading friends! I hope you enjoyed my first post in a while. I'd worry about how long it's been but... I'm letting that go.